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I read Principia Amoris by John Gottman around

Review: ★★★

An academic book that felt mostly targeted at academics and practitioners. The love equations predicting the happiness and final outcome of a marriage have a high degree of accuracy. What I appreciated about Gottman was his love for mathematics, but also for not dehumanizing the subjects. The practical steps of how to change your variables were much appreciated.

The biggest things I remember are:

  • Accept every bid you can
  • Try to have positive startup in conflicts
  • Repair early and often when miscommunication or regrettable interactions happen


Principia Amoris: The New Science of Love
John Gottman
9780415641562 (find it on Bookshop, IndieBound, WorldCat, or Open Library)